• Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Relationship Coach



    "No time like

    the present to

    work sh!t out"

    -Beastie Boys


    Things I work with especially well.

    Emotion/mood Dysregulation










    panic attacks

    intrusive thoughts

    mood swings

    Relationship Therapy or Coaching

    partners conflict



    divorce/ breakup

    intimacy issues


    trust building

    dating anxiety

    attachment style
    trauma bonding
    sex drive

    LGTBQ+ Allied

    Kink/Poly Affirmative

    partners therapy

    sexual identity

    queer culture

    coming out

    gender identity

    gender transition

    gender dyshporia

    transition planning

    gender roles


    kink culture

    family rejection

    Adult Giftedness


    chronic cynicism

    twice- exceptional




    low belongingness

    chronic boredom

    empathic overwhelm

    high sensitivity (HSP)


    moral outrage



    LMFTA Supervision


    growth mindset

    P.O.T.T approach existentialism

    case conceptualization

    career planning

    private practice

    business goals

    work boundaries

    avoiding Burnout

    exploring a niche








    Lavelda Naylor MA LMFT-S DCC



    2186 Jackson Keller Rd, Ste 1054
    San Antonio, TX 78213


    Inclusivity is foundational for my practice--I want you to feel welcomed to be yourself. I am Poly Positive, Antiracist Allied, LGTBQ+ Member, Neuro-divergent and Kinky so come one, come all--mental health is good for everyone!



    -Lydia Deetz


    I like therapy techniques that foster self acceptance, provoke personal growth, and stimulate relationship development, preferably RIGHT NOW: in-the-moment change is my jam. I like to dig deep, challenge patterns, rewire impulses, and push for lasting change in session.


    In addition, I often provide on-topic exercises, journaling prompts, blogposts, handouts, podcasts etc. for you to use between session. These are opportunities to be accountable to yourself and the change you are seeking, not tests or mandatory.




    Ready to begin?


    • As a virtual therapist, I am to make getting started as easy is possible. To onboard, simply enter the client portal below and create a profile. You will fill out all forms online, which address most client concerns.
    • Once registered in the client portal, you can create a journal, manage billing, schedule sessions, send chats, access your forms, and work towards your therapy goals all online.
    • Virtual sessions will be held in the portal or via Psychology Today's Sessions platform. If you prefer a different platform, you may provide a link to therapist prior to each session.





    C O $ T


    • SLIDNG SCALE FEES: If you are unable to pay the default fee, you may apply for a reduced rate between $70-$100 per hour (first session is $100). Special rates available for graduate students studying mental health work and mental health professionals ($50 with documentation), as well as Open Path members ($60 with membership number). Free cancellation 24 hours prior to session, late cancel $35, same day cancellation or no shows are full session fee.
    • PAYMENT: fees for services are due at the time of service. Private pay only and all payments are out of pocket; PayPal, Zelle, Venmo, debit/credit, HSA accepted. NO INSURANCE ACCEPTED. Receipts are available for personal filing /reimbursement purposes upon request.
    • LEGAL FEES: Fees for services related to mental health legal/medical support (i.e., letters, court appearances, etc.) requested by clients are $200/hour, rush documentation of less than one week are an additional 35% of total invoice. Written consent is required for release of information, documents requested can be mailed for $15 via USPS. EXPERT WITNESS as an LMFT in TX on the behalf of legal council is $300 an hour, billed monthly to requesting entity.





    B L O G

    NOTE: While these posts are not a substitute for therapy , the information is based on research articles, books, publications, and outcomes of client work across my years as a therapist. I hope these tools help you in some way.

    September 13, 2021
    Family of Origin (FOO) refers to our family system in childhood, our moms, dads, siblings, grandparents, etc. FOO  therapy involves tracing present-day issues back to family functioning.   EXAMPLE: Poor emotion processing around anger in you now  could come from FOO dynamics with high conflict...
    September 7, 2021 · 1
    When we experience emotional intensity, we need to go into the feeling (vent) or go away from the feeling (distract) to re-establish mental regulation and bring the intensity down a few notches. This post focuses on going towards feelings by 'letting off steam''-- commonly known as 'venting' --...
    What is an interdependent relationship? It is simply a relationship comprised of at least two mentally secure people who are intimately involved with each other in ways that preclude sacrificing themselves or compromising their values in harmful ways in favor of the whole.  Why is this...
    August 19, 2021
    Some years ago, I read a riviting post about friendship over the lifespan that I still use frequently to help clients with their social needs.  Since I refer to it so I often, I thought I would share the parts of the original post I have found so helpful both in my own life and the lives of my...
    August 5, 2021
    Did you know that at least 42 million Americans are dealing with generalized anxiety disorder? What is making us so anxious? Obviously genetics play a role, but what environmental factors might be contributing? In treatment, something that shows up a lot around anxiety  is disregulated emotions...
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    What treatment modality is best for you?

    virtual therapy

    all sessions currently virtual

    Virtual therapy (video, phone, and/or chat) is an effective alternative to in-person therapy a for just about anyone: people who are comfortable with technology, have mobility issues, or are busy and dealing with time constraints. For such people, research shows outcomes of virtual therapy are not significantly different from in person therapy regardless of reason for attending or therapeutic approach. However, virtual therapy is NOT a good fit for small children, technology challenged, or actively suicidal clients. If you cannot find privacy for 45 minutes, virtual video/phone sessions may not work for you as confidentiality and privacy are critical components of therapy. HIPPA platforms offered for virtual video sessions are Client Portal, Psychology Today, and Zoom (if client initiated).



    individual therapy 

    just for you

    This modality focuses on the issues that a single client of any age brings to treatment: From chronic difficulties to challenging life events, even to just needing a listener - someone who doesn't judge and who can help generate new perspectives. Good candidates include just about anyone feeling stuck and unsatisfied with life, but examples are those struggling with a diagnosis, experiencing a life change, grief/loss, mood difficulties, etc. For this modality, I generally use a combination of systemic ideas, cognitive tools, and existential therapies to support your therapy goals. I also offer relationship coaching that targets issues specific to dating and/or parenting in a modern world.



    partner therapy

    plus a significant other

    This modality focuses on issues that occur between intimately connected persons. Issues range from poor communication to infidelity. Symptoms are identified within relationship characteristics, not an individual. Good candidates are partners who have more negative than positive interaction, trust issues, relationship stress or dissatisfaction, escalating conflict, poor communication, withdrawal from each other, separation talks, etc. For this modality, I generally use a combination of systemic ideas, attachment-focused dialogues, and cognitive behavioral tools to support your therapy goals.

    family therapy

    more than partners

    This modality focuses on the issues within a family system - members of our primary support group. Issues in families range from parental concerns, to life cycle changes, to family conflict. Symptoms are identified within the context of the family and treatment focuses on addressing family functioning as a whole, instead of on a single person and that person's issues. Good candidates include families with a high degree of conflict, regular/repetitive stress, ongoing developmental or health issues, families experiencing change, divorce, struggling with diagnosis , etc. For this modality, I generally use a combination of systemic psychoeducation, experiential, and cognitive behavioral tools to support group goals.

    group therapy

    more than you and yours

    This modality focuses on a singular, common issue and works off of the relational dynamics between people. Coping and interpersonal functioning can be improved by participating in such a group; through the sharing of struggles and common goals, group members share ideas and develop a sense of cohesiveness, often realizing they are not alone, which creates feelings of universality and renewed connection to humanity.



    Go here for next Mom's Connect About Autism (MOCAA) group.



    “Therapy is not a conversation; it is an experience.”

    – Dr. Harry Aponte


    My approach to supervision is collaborative, integrative and focused on helping you achieve your career goals.  I am happy to work within the theories you are experimenting with and expand my own knowledge about your populations of interest. You have something special to give, let's grow it together!
     In addition to working with the theories you are exploring, I like to practice a non-hierarchical systems view by Dr Harry Aponte called Person of the Therapist, or POTT,  which assumes that "therapists’ cultural, philosophical, and spiritual values are treated as contexts for therapists’ judgments and choices about how they view clients and their issues." So together we will examine our own internal narratives and how they are influencing supervision. 
    As I have been in private practice since right out of grad school, I am able to advise on how to start, grow and maintain a thriving private pay practice in the state of TX from jump. We can talk business ethics, board compliance, and planning along with licensing process. I am happy to share what I have learned along the way with you and watch you build your brand.
    If you think we might be a good fit, please submit a cover letter about your clinical interests in working with me, your resume/CV (with references), and graduate school transcript below. I will get back to you to schedule an interview.
    SUPERVISION FEES: Supervision applicants residing in TEXAS can expect to pay $65 per individual ONLINE supervision session (weekly) and $35 per ONLINE group (monthly) supervision session if accepted as an LMFT-A under my license.
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    P U B L I C A T I O N S


    Naylor, Lavelda (2018) Adult GT Adults Issues and Interventions. Presented at monthly meeting of Texas Association of Marriage and Family Therapy. (See presentation here)


    Naylor, Lavelda (2015). Sexpectations: Communicating About Expectations for Sex Partners in Relationships. Presented at The Sexology Institute, San Antonio, TX.


    Naylor, Lavelda, & Wilson, Amy (2013). Social Media Boundaries for Mental Health Professionals. Presented to Family Service Association, San Antonio, TX. http://laveldanaylor.wordpress.com/2013/02/18/social-media-use-as-a-mental-health-professional/


    Naylor, Lavelda, & Wilson, Amy (2013). Modern Parenting Perspectives for Mental Health Professionals. Presented to Family Service Association, San Antonio, TX.


    Pillow, D., Naylor, L., & Malone, G. (2012). Beliefs Regarding Stimulant Medication Effects Among College Students with a History of Past or Current Usage. Journal of Attention Disorder, DOI:10.1177/1087054712459755


    Naylor, L., Stanley, E., & Wicha, N. (2012). Cognitive and neural correlates of the bilingual Stroop effect: Evidence from behavior and event-related potentials.Frontiers in Cognition,3, 81. doi: 10.3389/fpsyg.2012.00081


    David R. Pillow, Glenn P. Malone, Lavelda Bradley (Naylor), & Cristina Cadena (2010). Beliefs Regarding Stimulant Medication Effects Predict Patterns of Use in college Students. Presented at the annual meeting of the Association for Psychological Science, Boston, MA.


    (Naylor) Bradley, L., Stanely, E., & Wicha, N. Y.Y. (2009). De Colores: An ERP study of cross-language interference using a bilingual color-Stroop task. Presented at the annual meeting of the Cognitive Neuroscience Society, San Francisco, CA.

    Bradley, L. & Pillow, D. (2009).


    Pillow, D. & (Naylor) Bradley, L. (2008). Predicting Stimulant Medication Use in College Students with AD/HD. Presented at the annual meeting of the Southwestern Psychological Association, San Antonio, TX.


    (Naylor) Bradley, L. & Pillow, D. (2008). Applying the Theory of Planned Behavior to ADHD Medication Endpoints. Poster presented at the Spring Research Conference of the College of Liberal and Fine Arts, the University of Texas at San Antonio, San Antonio, TX. Awarded 3rd Place research prize.


    (Naylor) Bradley, L. & Pillow, D. (2008). Investigating AD/HD Medication Endpoints. Slide presentation at the 22cd annual meeting of the National Conference on Undergraduate Research, Salisbury, MA.


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