• Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Relationship Coach



    "No time like

    the present to work sh!t out" 

    -Beastie Boys


    Things I work with especially well.

    Mood Dysregulation










    panic attacks

    intrusive thoughts

    mood swings

    Relationship Help

    partners conflict



    divorce/ breakup

    intimacy issues


    trust building

    dating anxiety

    attachment style

    trauma bonding 


    sex drive



    partners therapy

    sexual identity

    queer culture

    coming out

    gender identity

    gender transition

    gender dyshporia

    transition planning

    gender roles


    kink culture

    family rejection

    Adult Giftedness


    chronic cynicism

    twice- exceptional




    low belongingness

    chronic boredom

    empathic overwhelm

    high sensitivity (HSP)


    moral outrage



    LMFT Associate 



    growth mindset


    case conceptualization

    career planning

    private practice 

    business goals

    work boundaries

    avoiding Burnout

    exploring a niche














    Lavelda Naylor MA LMFT-S DCC




    2186 Jackson Keller Rd, Ste 1054

    San Antonio, TX 78213






    -Lydia Deetz 


    Inclusivity is foundational for my practice---I want you to feel welcomed to be yourself. I celebrate differences and pam happy to work from a Poly Positive, Antiracist Allied, LGTBQ+ Member, Neuro-divergent and Kinky Affirming perspective. So come one, come all---mental health is good for everyone!




    I like therapy techniques that foster self acceptance, provoke personal growth, and stimulate relationship development, preferably NOW: in-the-moment change is my jam. 


    BUT I also like to dig deep, challenge patterns, rewire impulses, and push for lasting change as well. To help achieve that, I often provide on-topic exercises, journaling prompts, blogposts, handouts, podcasts etc. for you to use between session that are meant to challenge you to grow. 


    Between session work is an opportunity to be accountable to yourself and the change you are seeking, not tests or mandatory. The goal for me as therapist is always to help you reach your own wellness goals.





    Ready to begin?


    As a virtual therapist, I am to make getting started as easy is possible. To onboard, simply enter the client portal below and create a profile. You will fill out all forms online, which address most client concerns.  Once registered in the client portal, you can create a journal, manage billing, schedule sessions, send chats, access your forms, and work towards your therapy goals all online.  Virtual sessions will be held in the portal or via Psychology Today's Sessions platform. If you prefer a different platform, you may provide a link to therapist prior to each session.






    C O $ T 



    SLIDNG SCALE FEES: If you are unable to pay the default fee, you may apply for a reduced rate between $70-$100 per hour (first session is $100). Special rates available for graduate students studying mental health work and mental health professionals ($50 with documentation), as well as Open Path members ($60 with membership number). Free cancellation 24 hours prior to session, late cancel $35, same day cancellation or no shows are full session fee.
    PAYMENT: fees for services are due at the time of service. Private pay only and all payments are out of pocket; PayPal, Zelle, Venmo, debit/credit, HSA accepted.   NO INSURANCE ACCEPTED. Receipts are available for personal filing /reimbursement purposes upon request. 
    LEGAL FEES: Fees for services related to mental health legal/medical support (i.e., letters, court appearances, etc.) requested by clients are $200/hour, rush documentation of less than one week are an additional 35% of total invoice. Written consent is required for release of information, documents requested can be mailed for $15 via USPS. EXPERT WITNESS as an LMFT in TX on the behalf of legal council is $300 an hour, billed monthly to requesting entity. 








    B L O G

    NOTE: While these posts are not a substitute for therapy , the information is based on research articles, books, publications, and outcomes of client work across my years as a therapist. I hope these tools help you in some way.

    January 4, 2022
    “As you sow in your subconscious mind, so shall you reap in your body and environment.” ~Joseph Murphy What makes human individuals unique may not be their personalities, their struggles, or even their genetics, it is "their ability to write their own story, attributing meaning, sharing it...
    December 30, 2021
    1. Dont exagerate the positive. Sometimes we romanticize the past, this includes past relationships. It can help to balance the view and note some undesirable parts of the relationship if you are being overly positive about things. But dont get stuck there! Being neutral is better for our mental...
    September 13, 2021
    Family of Origin (FOO) refers to our family system in childhood, our moms, dads, siblings, grandparents, etc. FOO  therapy involves tracing present-day issues back to family functioning.   EXAMPLE: Poor emotion processing around anger in you now  could come from FOO dynamics with high conflict...
    September 7, 2021 · 1
    When we experience emotional intensity, we need to go into the feeling (vent) or go away from the feeling (distract) to re-establish mental regulation and bring the intensity down a few notches. This post focuses on going towards feelings by 'letting off steam''-- commonly known as 'venting' --...
    What is an interdependent relationship? It is simply a relationship comprised of at least two mentally secure people who are intimately involved with each other in ways that preclude sacrificing themselves or compromising their values in harmful ways in favor of the whole.  Why is this...
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    What treatment modality is best for you?

    virtual therapy

    all sessions currently virtual

    Virtual therapy (video, phone, and/or chat) is an effective alternative to in-person therapy a for just about anyone: people who are comfortable with technology, have mobility issues, or are busy and dealing with time constraints. For such people, research shows outcomes of virtual therapy are not significantly different from in person therapy regardless of reason for attending or therapeutic approach. However, virtual therapy is NOT a good fit for small children, technology challenged, or actively suicidal clients. If you cannot find privacy for 45 minutes, virtual video/phone sessions may not work for you as confidentiality and privacy are critical components of therapy. HIPPA platforms offered for virtual video sessions are Client Portal, Psychology Today, and Zoom (if client initiated).



    individual therapy 

    just for you

    This modality focuses on the issues that a single client of any age brings to treatment: From chronic difficulties to challenging life events, even to just needing a listener - someone who doesn't judge and who can help generate new perspectives. Good candidates include just about anyone feeling stuck and unsatisfied with life, but examples are those struggling with a diagnosis, experiencing a life change, grief/loss, mood difficulties, etc. For this modality, I generally use a combination of systemic ideas, cognitive tools, and existential therapies to support your therapy goals. I also offer relationship coaching that targets issues specific to dating and/or parenting in a modern world.



    partner therapy

    plus a significant other

    This modality focuses on issues that occur between intimately connected persons. Issues range from poor communication to infidelity. Symptoms are identified within relationship characteristics, not an individual. Good candidates are partners who have more negative than positive interaction, trust issues, relationship stress or dissatisfaction, escalating conflict, poor communication, withdrawal from each other, separation talks, etc. For this modality, I generally use a combination of systemic ideas, attachment-focused dialogues, and cognitive behavioral tools to support your therapy goals.

    family therapy

    more than partners

    This modality focuses on the issues within a family system - members of our primary support group. Issues in families range from parental concerns, to life cycle changes, to family conflict. Symptoms are identified within the context of the family and treatment focuses on addressing family functioning as a whole, instead of on a single person and that person's issues. Good candidates include families with a high degree of conflict, regular/repetitive stress, ongoing developmental or health issues, families experiencing change, divorce, struggling with diagnosis , etc. For this modality, I generally use a combination of systemic psychoeducation, experiential, and cognitive behavioral tools to support group goals.

    group therapy

    more than you and yours

    This modality focuses on a singular, common issue and works off of the relational dynamics between people. Coping and interpersonal functioning can be improved by participating in such a group; through the sharing of struggles and common goals, group members share ideas and develop a sense of cohesiveness, often realizing they are not alone, which creates feelings of universality and renewed connection to humanity.



    Go here for next Mom's Connect About Autism (MOCAA) group.

  • A P P R O A C H E S

    How I roll ...
    I am an activist therapist, and care deeply about social justice issues, marginalized groups, and inclusivity. My perspectives are grounded in philosophy, psychology, neuroscience research, empowerment coaching perspectives, and systems theory. Each of these lenses helps me see mental health issues in  complex (rather than reductive) ways. and enable me to formulate sensitive treatment plans for the struggles of life.   



    But at heart I am, an existentialist, I believe we experience life in two distinct ways:   BEING (internal) and DOING (external) --these two worlds influence each other but the Being world is an entirely private and unique experience. Therefore, it is important to explore and organize this space in ways that help you cope with the absurdity of having to juggle these two parallel worlds, especially when the external world is often shitty. So how are we going to do that? 





    I often use Mindfulness techniques early on in the therapy process to increase access to your cognitive resources. better manage your emotions, and acknowledge any trauma or issues showing up for you. Therapeutic MINDFULNESS from a secular perspective is directing our attention to the present moment with a nonjudgmental gaze: what am I thinking? what is my body doing? what happened right before I felt that?  


    With practice, mindfulness can lead to new ideas about yourself  and help you create more change in your life by increasing your cognitive resources, guiding your behavior, and increasing your overall wellness. I like to say "We cannot controlthe world, but we can curate our minds."



    Long Term Change

    I find existentialism most critical to integrating our experiences and making lasting change, but it can take some time to arrive at its usefulness in the therapy process (unless you have already had therapy, then we might just dive right in).


    Existential ideas relies on self awareness (that mindfulness comes in handy here) and the search for meaning—in treatment, this means centering more on Self rather than Symptom.


    By exploring yourself, you can redefine your your relationship with self and other, explore your unique internal life, reshape your narratives, make more authentic decisions and better represent yourself in the world. We can take what we learn about you and turn that into actionable goals, which is critical because inert knowledge doe not have much impact on your life. 



    "Your responses to the events of life are more important than the events themselves."

    – Virginia Satir


    How Change Happens...

    I also really like learning by doing--I know that I only have you for an hour at a time and the rest of your life does not work the way therapy does, so I want to create REAL TIME LEARNING with you in our sessions whenever possible. Therefore I use tools and techniques in session meant to provoke an immediate change in your process. And I will teach them to you!
    My favorite experiential techniques are those created by Virginia Satir, like family sculpting, defensive postures, leveling, acceptance of differences, belief challenging, cultural awareness, and creativity in response to chaos. She posited that we can become fixed and closed in the status quo. Then when something enters our life we can't cope with in the same old way, we fall into chaos-- this is when most people seek therapy. The good news is we are more open to new ideas when we fall into chaos. Therefore, therapy in the Satir manner is seeking together that transformational idea that relieves your chaos.

    Once we find the important tools for where you are in your journey, we usually have to keep working on them until it feels natural to you. And then we have to integrate across tools to reveal the matrix that is how the brain works underneath all that STUFF IN YOUR MIND. It might entail a mind blown emoji or two. :)

    ATTACHMENT THEORY is a critical addition to my work, especially with neurodivergent folks, because our attachment style so deeply impacts our relationship experiences across the lifespan and rejection of the self can create a sense of low belongingness and insecurity. .


    When we feel safe and understood, we can regulate our internal experience better as we grow because we have a secure attachment. In adulthood, this translates to being more self-confident, trusting, and hopeful, with an ability to healthily manage conflict, respond to intimacy, and navigate the ups and downs of relationships.


    Of course relationships can go wrong, and we can become insecurely attached if we find this traumatizing. If you struggle to regulate your emotions around social interactions and have difficulty maintaining stable relationships in adulthood, you may have an insecure attachment style and attachment based therapy can help you repair some attachment injuries.


    Working on attachment improves our ability to tolerate external stress, create closeness, better understand our own emotions and the feelings of others, We are better able to self regulate in the present when our needs from the past have been met.





    “Therapy is not a conversation; it is an experience.”

    – Dr. Harry Aponte


    My approach to supervision is collaborative, integrative and focused on helping you achieve your career goals.  I am happy to work within the theories you are experimenting with and expand my own knowledge about your populations of interest. You have something special to give, let's grow it together!
     In addition to working with the theories you are exploring, I like to practice a non-hierarchical systems view by Dr Harry Aponte called Person of the Therapist, or POTT,  which assumes that "therapists’ cultural, philosophical, and spiritual values are treated as contexts for therapists’ judgments and choices about how they view clients and their issues." So together we will examine our own internal narratives and how they are influencing supervision. 
    As I have been in private practice since right out of grad school, I am able to advise on how to start, grow and maintain a thriving private pay practice in the state of TX from jump. We can talk business ethics, board compliance, and planning along with licensing process. I am happy to share what I have learned along the way with you and watch you build your brand.
    If you think we might be a good fit, please submit a cover letter about your clinical interests in working with me, your resume/CV (with references), and graduate school transcript below. I will get back to you to schedule an interview.
    SUPERVISION FEES: Supervision applicants residing in TEXAS can expect to pay $65 per individual ONLINE supervision session (weekly) and $35 per ONLINE group (monthly) supervision session if accepted as an LMFT-A under my license.
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    P U B L I C A T I O N S


    Naylor, Lavelda (2018) Adult GT Adults Issues and Interventions. Presented at monthly meeting of Texas Association of Marriage and Family Therapy. (See presentation here)


    Naylor, Lavelda (2015). Sexpectations: Communicating About Expectations for Sex Partners in Relationships. Presented at The Sexology Institute, San Antonio, TX.


    Naylor, Lavelda, & Wilson, Amy (2013). Social Media Boundaries for Mental Health Professionals. Presented to Family Service Association, San Antonio, TX. http://laveldanaylor.wordpress.com/2013/02/18/social-media-use-as-a-mental-health-professional/


    Naylor, Lavelda, & Wilson, Amy (2013). Modern Parenting Perspectives for Mental Health Professionals. Presented to Family Service Association, San Antonio, TX.


    Pillow, D., Naylor, L., & Malone, G. (2012). Beliefs Regarding Stimulant Medication Effects Among College Students with a History of Past or Current Usage. Journal of Attention Disorder, DOI:10.1177/1087054712459755


    Naylor, L., Stanley, E., & Wicha, N. (2012). Cognitive and neural correlates of the bilingual Stroop effect: Evidence from behavior and event-related potentials.Frontiers in Cognition,3, 81. doi: 10.3389/fpsyg.2012.00081


    David R. Pillow, Glenn P. Malone, Lavelda Bradley (Naylor), & Cristina Cadena (2010). Beliefs Regarding Stimulant Medication Effects Predict Patterns of Use in college Students. Presented at the annual meeting of the Association for Psychological Science, Boston, MA.


    (Naylor) Bradley, L., Stanely, E., & Wicha, N. Y.Y. (2009). De Colores: An ERP study of cross-language interference using a bilingual color-Stroop task. Presented at the annual meeting of the Cognitive Neuroscience Society, San Francisco, CA.

    Bradley, L. & Pillow, D. (2009).


    Pillow, D. & (Naylor) Bradley, L. (2008). Predicting Stimulant Medication Use in College Students with AD/HD. Presented at the annual meeting of the Southwestern Psychological Association, San Antonio, TX.


    (Naylor) Bradley, L. & Pillow, D. (2008). Applying the Theory of Planned Behavior to ADHD Medication Endpoints. Poster presented at the Spring Research Conference of the College of Liberal and Fine Arts, the University of Texas at San Antonio, San Antonio, TX. Awarded 3rd Place research prize.


    (Naylor) Bradley, L. & Pillow, D. (2008). Investigating AD/HD Medication Endpoints. Slide presentation at the 22cd annual meeting of the National Conference on Undergraduate Research, Salisbury, MA.


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