& RELATIONSHIP COACH
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M O D A L I T I E S
What treatment modality is best for you?
all sessions currently virtual
Virtual therapy (video, phone, and/or chat) is an effective alternative to in-person therapy a for just about anyone: people who are comfortable with technology, have mobility issues, or are busy and dealing with time constraints. For such people, research shows outcomes of virtual therapy are not significantly different from in person therapy regardless of reason for attending or therapeutic approach. However, virtual therapy is NOT a good fit for small children, technology challenged, or actively suicidal clients. If you cannot find privacy for 45 minutes, virtual video/phone sessions may not work for you as confidentiality and privacy are critical components of therapy. HIPPA platforms offered for virtual video sessions are Client Portal, Psychology Today, and Zoom (if client initiated).
just for you
This modality focuses on the issues that a single client of any age brings to treatment: From chronic difficulties to challenging life events, even to just needing a listener - someone who doesn't judge and who can help generate new perspectives. Good candidates include just about anyone feeling stuck and unsatisfied with life, but examples are those struggling with a diagnosis, experiencing a life change, grief/loss, mood difficulties, etc. For this modality, I generally use a combination of systemic ideas, cognitive tools, and existential therapies to support your therapy goals. I also offer relationship coaching that targets issues specific to dating and/or parenting in a modern world.
plus a significant other
This modality focuses on issues that occur between intimately connected persons. Issues range from poor communication to infidelity. Symptoms are identified within relationship characteristics, not an individual. Good candidates are partners who have more negative than positive interaction, trust issues, relationship stress or dissatisfaction, escalating conflict, poor communication, withdrawal from each other, separation talks, etc. For this modality, I generally use a combination of systemic ideas, attachment-focused dialogues, and cognitive behavioral tools to support your therapy goals.
more than partners
This modality focuses on the issues within a family system - members of our primary support group. Issues in families range from parental concerns, to life cycle changes, to family conflict. Symptoms are identified within the context of the family and treatment focuses on addressing family functioning as a whole, instead of on a single person and that person's issues. Good candidates include families with a high degree of conflict, regular/repetitive stress, ongoing developmental or health issues, families experiencing change, divorce, struggling with diagnosis , etc. For this modality, I generally use a combination of systemic psychoeducation, experiential, and cognitive behavioral tools to support group goals.
more than you and yours
This modality focuses on a singular, common issue and works off of the relational dynamics between people. Coping and interpersonal functioning can be improved by participating in such a group; through the sharing of struggles and common goals, group members share ideas and develop a sense of cohesiveness, often realizing they are not alone, which creates feelings of universality and renewed connection to humanity.
Therapeutic MINDFULNESS from a secular perspective is a conscious awareness of our present experience from a non-judgmental perspective. Contrary to popular opinion, mindfulness therapy is not concerned with relaxation, the focus is on increasing our awareness of our internal state and immediate surroundings IN THE NOW. What is happening in my head exactly as I make this sandwich? How does it feel to be me in this conversation? What made my face scrunch just now? Are my emotional needs met to date?
When we are better able to do this, we can engage more deeply with ourselves and others. In addition, a regular practice of mindfulness slows our reaction time to stressful experiences, increases our metacognition, and helps us make smarter , more authentic decisions... WIN-WIN!
COACHING is different from therapy in that it is more outcome focused and more directive, advice is given that is meant to influence your decision making, improve y, and develop your potential.
I offer coaching specific to relationships, like strategies for co-parenting, dating and making friends in the digital age, and improving your self esteem. If you have tried therapy before but are still stuck on relationship issues, coaching might be the extra edge you need to address your social functioning.
I also find ATTACHMENT THEORY is a critical addition to my work, which posits the quality of the bonding you experienced during the early childhood caregiver relationship often determines how well you relate to other people and respond to intimacy throughout life.
When we feel safe and understood, we can regulate our internal experience better as we grow because we have a secure attachment. In adulthood, this translates to being more self-confident, trusting, and hopeful, with an ability to healthily manage conflict, respond to intimacy, and navigate the ups and downs of relationships.
Working on attachment improves our ability to tolerate external stress, create closeness, better understand our own emotions and the feelings of others,
If you struggle to maintain stable relationships in adulthood, you may have an insecure attachment style and attachment based therapy can help you repair some attachment injuries.
– Dr. Harry Aponte
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