• Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Relationship Coach

    & RELATIONSHIP COACH

     

    "No time like the present to work sh!t out..."

    -Beastie Boys

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    CONTACT ME

     

     

    Lavelda Naylor MA LMFT-S DCC

    BEGIN ANYWHERE LLC

    laveldanaylor@ymail.com

    2186 Jackson Keller Rd, Ste 1054
    San Antonio, TX 78213
    210.460.0442
                       

  • S P E C I A L I T I E S

    Things I work with especially well.

    Emotion/mood Dysregulation

    depression

    anxiety

    phobias

    compulsions

    bipolar

    borderline

    suicidality

    explosiveness

    impulsivity

    panic attacks

    intrusive thoughts

    mood swings

    trauma

    Relationships Issues

    partners conflict

    family conflict

    boundaries

    communication

    divorce/ breakup

    intimacy issues

    codependency

    trust building

    co-parenting

    dating anxiety

    infidelity

    attachment issues

    LGTBQ+ Allied

    Kink Affirmative

    partners therapy

    sexual identity

    queer culture

    coming out

    gender identity

    gender transition

    gender dyshporia

    gender roles

    polyamory

    kink culture

    belongingness

    family rejection

    Adult Giftedness

    neurodivergence

    cynicism

    overthinking

    perfectionism

    multipotentiality

    under-achievement

    dissatisfaction

    low belongingness

    chronic boredom

    sensitivity (HSP)

    over-excitability

    empathic overwhelm

    therapy for therapists

     

    LMFTA Supervision

    existentialism
    emotion focused

    cog-neuroscience

    growth mindset

    scaffolding stance

    P.O.T.T approach

    case management

    career planning

    private practice

    personal goals

    work boundaries

    exploring a niche

     

  • R E G I S T R A T I O N

     

    Ready to begin?

     
    To onboard, enter the client portal below and create a profile. Once registered in the client portal, you can create a journal, manage billing, schedule sessions, send chats, access your paperwork, and work towards your therapy goals.
     
    • Virtual sessions will be held in the portal or via Psychology Today's Sessions platform. If you prefer a different platform, you may provide a link to therapist prior to each session.

     

     

    *ALL SESSIONS ARE CURRENTLY VIRTUAL*

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    C O $ T

    {DEFAULT RATE $100/HOUR}

    • SLIDNG SCALE FEES: If you are unable to pay the default fee, you may apply for a reduced rate between $70-$100 per hour (first session is $100). Special rates available for graduate students studying mental health work and mental health professionals ($50 with documentation), as well as Open Path members ($60 with membership number).
     
    • PAYMENT: fees for services are due at the time of service. Private pay only and all payments are out of pocket; PayPal, Zelle, Venmo, debit/credit, HSA accepted. NO INSURANCE ACCEPTED. Receipts are available for personal filing /reimbursement purposes upon request.
     
    • LEGAL FEES: Fees for services related to mental health legal/medical support (i.e., letters, court appearances, etc.) are $200/hour, rush documentation of less than one week are an additional 35% of total invoice. Written consent is required for release of information, documents requested can be mailed for $15 via USPS

     

     

      

  • M O D A L I T I E S

    What treatment modality is best for you?

    virtual therapy

    all sessions currently virtual

    Virtual therapy (video, phone, and/or chat) is an effective alternative to in-person therapy a for just about anyone: people who are comfortable with technology, have mobility issues, or are busy and dealing with time constraints. For such people, research shows outcomes of virtual therapy are not significantly different from in person therapy regardless of reason for attending or therapeutic approach. However, virtual therapy is NOT a good fit for small children, technology challenged, or actively suicidal clients. If you cannot find privacy for 45 minutes, virtual video/phone sessions may not work for you as confidentiality and privacy are critical components of therapy. HIPPA platforms offered for virtual video sessions are Client Portal, Psychology Today, and Zoom (if client initiated).

     

     

    individual therapy 

    just for you

    This modality focuses on the issues that a single client of any age brings to treatment: From chronic difficulties to challenging life events, even to just needing a listener - someone who doesn't judge and who can help generate new perspectives. Good candidates include just about anyone feeling stuck and unsatisfied with life, but examples are those struggling with a diagnosis, experiencing a life change, grief/loss, mood difficulties, etc. For this modality, I generally use a combination of systemic ideas, cognitive tools, and existential therapies to support your therapy goals. I also offer relationship coaching that targets issues specific to dating and/or parenting in a modern world.

     

     

    partner therapy

    plus a significant other

    This modality focuses on issues that occur between intimately connected persons. Issues range from poor communication to infidelity. Symptoms are identified within relationship characteristics, not an individual. Good candidates are partners who have more negative than positive interaction, trust issues, relationship stress or dissatisfaction, escalating conflict, poor communication, withdrawal from each other, separation talks, etc. For this modality, I generally use a combination of systemic ideas, attachment-focused dialogues, and cognitive behavioral tools to support your therapy goals.

    family therapy

    more than partners

    This modality focuses on the issues within a family system - members of our primary support group. Issues in families range from parental concerns, to life cycle changes, to family conflict. Symptoms are identified within the context of the family and treatment focuses on addressing family functioning as a whole, instead of on a single person and that person's issues. Good candidates include families with a high degree of conflict, regular/repetitive stress, ongoing developmental or health issues, families experiencing change, divorce, struggling with diagnosis , etc. For this modality, I generally use a combination of systemic psychoeducation, experiential, and cognitive behavioral tools to support group goals.

    group therapy

    more than you and yours

    This modality focuses on a singular, common issue and works off of the relational dynamics between people. Coping and interpersonal functioning can be improved by participating in such a group; through the sharing of struggles and common goals, group members share ideas and develop a sense of cohesiveness, often realizing they are not alone, which creates feelings of universality and renewed connection to humanity.

     

     

    Go here for next Mom's Connect About Autism (MOCAA) group.

  • A P P R O A C H E S

    How I roll ...

     
    I have a background in philosophy and psychology, neuroscience research, and systems theory. As a clinician, I approach treatment with the idea that brain/body and mind/self are distinct for human beings, and it is the MIND in which we LIVE.  Therefore, it is important to curate this space in ways that help you cope with the absurdity of life as a human thing (an existential idea).--not an easy feat. So even if you are not currently in crisis, therapy can illuminate the internal life struggles you may be carrying: does this belief still work for me? whose voice is that in my head? am I living authentically? do I even like this anymore, and what the heck do I do with all these feelings everywhere?

    YOU LIVE IN YOUR MIND, SO BE MIND-FULL.

     

     

     

    Therapeutic MINDFULNESS from a secular perspective is a conscious awareness of our present experience from a non-judgmental perspective. Contrary to popular opinion, mindfulness therapy is not concerned with relaxation, the focus is on increasing our awareness of our internal state and immediate surroundings IN THE NOW. What is happening in my head exactly as I make this sandwich? How does it feel to be me in this conversation? What made my face scrunch just now? Are my emotional needs met to date?

     

    When we are better able to do this, we can engage more deeply with ourselves and others. In addition, a regular practice of mindfulness slows our reaction time to stressful experiences, increases our metacognition, and helps us make smarter , more authentic decisions... WIN-WIN!

     

    EXISTENTIAL PSYCHOLOGY is the foundation of my approach. This set of ideas is multidisciplinary, focusing on self awareness and the search for meaning—in treatment, this means centering on Self rather than Symptom. Here are some basics I keep in mind...
    • All people have the capacity for self-awareness (yes, you!)
    • Our unique identity can be known only through relationships with others (granted, this can suck sometimes)
    • Because we are aware of  death and loss, anxiety is inevitable  (but can be better managed FFS)
    • Meaning making is the process that allows us to tolerate our experiences (the stories we tell ourselves)
    • Therefore our narratives are productive and ever-changing  (or should be,  let's work on that m'kay?)
     
    You can expect to be asked for your insights, to be encouraged to be authentic , to examine your meanings and to communicate your identity as a unique person that belongs here on this wacky planet. You will be accepted as you are, but  encouraged to grow, challenged to accept what is not in your control, and be redirected to what is--don't worry, I know that is harder than it sounds-- I will appreciate and validate that  THE STRUGGLE IS REAL. 
    I also really like learning by doing, which is called EXPERIENTIAL THERAPY. I know that I only have you for an hour at a time and the rest of your life does not work the way therapy does, so I want to create REAL TIME LEARNING with you in our sessions whenever possible. Therefore I use tools and techniques in session meant to provoke an immediate change in your process. And I will teach them to you!
     
    My favorite experiential techniques are those created by Virginia Satir, like family sculpting, defensive postures, leveling, acceptance of differences, belief challenging, cultural awareness, and creativity in response to chaos. She posited that we can become fixed and closed in the status quo. Then when something enters our life we can't cope with in the same old way, we fall into chaos-- this is when most people seek therapy. The good news is we are more open to new ideas when we fall into chaos. Therefore, therapy in the Satir manner is seeking together that transformational idea that relieves your chaos. 
     
    Once we find the important tools for where you are in your journey, we usually have to keep working on them until it feels natural to you. And then we have to integrate across tools to reveal the matrix that is how the brain works underneath all that STUFF IN YOUR MIND.  It might entail a mind blown emoji or two. :)
     

    COACHING is different from therapy in that it is more outcome focused and more directive, advice is given that is meant to influence your decision making, improve y, and develop your potential.

     

    I offer coaching specific to relationships, like strategies for co-parenting, dating and making friends in the digital age, and improving your self esteem. If you have tried therapy before but are still stuck on relationship issues, coaching might be the extra edge you need to address your social functioning.

    "Your responses to the events of life are more important than the events themselves."

    – Virginia Satir
     

    I also find ATTACHMENT THEORY is a critical addition to my work, which posits the quality of the bonding you experienced during the early childhood caregiver relationship often determines how well you relate to other people and respond to intimacy throughout life.

     

    When we feel safe and understood, we can regulate our internal experience better as we grow because we have a secure attachment. In adulthood, this translates to being more self-confident, trusting, and hopeful, with an ability to healthily manage conflict, respond to intimacy, and navigate the ups and downs of relationships.

     

    Working on attachment improves our ability to tolerate external stress, create closeness, better understand our own emotions and the feelings of others,

     

    If you struggle to maintain stable relationships in adulthood, you may have an insecure attachment style and attachment based therapy can help you repair some attachment injuries.

  • S U P E R V I S I O N

      

    “Therapy is not a conversation; it is an experience.”

    – Dr. Harry Aponte

    My approach to supervision is one authored by Dr Harry Aponte called Person of the Therapist, or POTT. His work marries nicely with my existential and experiential identity. 

     

    POTT is a depth oriented systems view on being a therapist, which emphasizes the purposeful utilization of self in the moment, working with the flaws and strengths you as a therapist have developed along your journey to assist others on their journeys. You are in the room, so you are a resource!
     
    You can expect to uncover your 'personal themes' and influential narratives about wellness, as well as identify how your unique journey and community experiences matter to the work you do as a therapist. The goal is to enhance your self awareness and ability to hold space for all the selves in the room through connection and acceptance of our diversity. You have something special to give, let's find it!
     
    And if you are interested in any of my clinical specialties or approaches, I am happy to work with you from those perspectives. While there is always more to learn on any given topic, I would love to share whatever I have learned with you. I come from a place of generativity and collaboration, not a competitive position--there is enough to go around and I am excited to watch you grow..

     

    SUPERVISION FEES: Supervision applicants can expect to pay $70 per individual supervision session (weekly) and $40 per group (monthly) supervision session if accepted as an LMFT-A under my license. If you think we might be a good fit, please submit a cover letter about your clinical interests in working with me, your resume/CV (with references), and graduate school transcript below. I will get back to you to schedule an interview. 
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    B L O G

    NOTE: While these posts are not a substitute for therapy , the information is based on research articles, books, publications, and outcomes of client work across my years as a therapist. I hope these tools help you in some way.

    September 13, 2021
    Family of Origin (FOO) refers to our family system in childhood, our moms, dads, siblings, grandparents, etc. FOO  therapy involves tracing present-day issues back to family functioning.   EXAMPLE: Poor emotion processing around anger in you now  could come from FOO dynamics with high conflict...
    September 7, 2021 · 1
    When we experience emotional intensity, we need to go into the feeling (vent) or go away from the feeling (distract) to re-establish mental regulation and bring the intensity down a few notches. This post focuses on going towards feelings by 'letting off steam''-- commonly known as 'venting' --...
    When we are children, we are totally dependent on our caregivers to meet our basic needs.  As we grow, our needs change and our caregivers are ideally helping us identify our developing needs in age appropriate ways (instead of prjecting their own onto us). This process helps us feel secure in...
    August 19, 2021
    Some years ago, I read a riviting post about friendship over the lifespan that I still use frequently to help clients with their social needs.  Since I refer to it so I often, I thought I would share the parts of the original post I have found so helpful both in my own life and the lives of my...
    August 5, 2021
    Did you know that at least 42 million Americans are dealing with generalized anxiety disorder? What is making us so anxious? Obviously genetics play a role, but what environmental factors might be contributing? In treatment, something that shows up a lot around anxiety  is disregulated emotions...
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  • S O C I A L _ M E D I A

    Social Media Policy: My web activity is focused around mental health and wellness. Any items I post that offend your sensibilities are not intended to do so; however, part of interacting in a public forum does include this risk. I generally accept all friend and follower requests. But likes, replies, private messages, comments on posts, blog responses, or treatment requests within social media sites from past and current clients will not be responded to. If you want to schedule an appointment please use email or phone. Thanks!

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    P U B L I C A T I O N S

     

    Naylor, Lavelda (2018) Adult GT Adults Issues and Interventions. Presented at monthly meeting of Texas Association of Marriage and Family Therapy. (See presentation here)

     

    Naylor, Lavelda (2015). Sexpectations: Communicating About Expectations for Sex Partners in Relationships. Presented at The Sexology Institute, San Antonio, TX.

     

    Naylor, Lavelda, & Wilson, Amy (2013). Social Media Boundaries for Mental Health Professionals. Presented to Family Service Association, San Antonio, TX. http://laveldanaylor.wordpress.com/2013/02/18/social-media-use-as-a-mental-health-professional/

     

    Naylor, Lavelda, & Wilson, Amy (2013). Modern Parenting Perspectives for Mental Health Professionals. Presented to Family Service Association, San Antonio, TX.

     

    Pillow, D., Naylor, L., & Malone, G. (2012). Beliefs Regarding Stimulant Medication Effects Among College Students with a History of Past or Current Usage. Journal of Attention Disorder, DOI:10.1177/1087054712459755

     

    Naylor, L., Stanley, E., & Wicha, N. (2012). Cognitive and neural correlates of the bilingual Stroop effect: Evidence from behavior and event-related potentials.Frontiers in Cognition,3, 81. doi: 10.3389/fpsyg.2012.00081

     

    David R. Pillow, Glenn P. Malone, Lavelda Bradley (Naylor), & Cristina Cadena (2010). Beliefs Regarding Stimulant Medication Effects Predict Patterns of Use in college Students. Presented at the annual meeting of the Association for Psychological Science, Boston, MA.

     

    (Naylor) Bradley, L., Stanely, E., & Wicha, N. Y.Y. (2009). De Colores: An ERP study of cross-language interference using a bilingual color-Stroop task. Presented at the annual meeting of the Cognitive Neuroscience Society, San Francisco, CA.

    Bradley, L. & Pillow, D. (2009).

     

    Pillow, D. & (Naylor) Bradley, L. (2008). Predicting Stimulant Medication Use in College Students with AD/HD. Presented at the annual meeting of the Southwestern Psychological Association, San Antonio, TX.

     

    (Naylor) Bradley, L. & Pillow, D. (2008). Applying the Theory of Planned Behavior to ADHD Medication Endpoints. Poster presented at the Spring Research Conference of the College of Liberal and Fine Arts, the University of Texas at San Antonio, San Antonio, TX. Awarded 3rd Place research prize.

     

    (Naylor) Bradley, L. & Pillow, D. (2008). Investigating AD/HD Medication Endpoints. Slide presentation at the 22cd annual meeting of the National Conference on Undergraduate Research, Salisbury, MA.

     

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